I know some ladies get the thrill out of dating other people’s men but more often than not these kinds of relationships never have a happy ending. In case you were thinking of jumping in the sack with a married man, take a look at the following reasons why dating a married is a bad idea:
He is married to someone else
If that is not reason enough for you then I don’t know what is. The fact that he is married should tell you that he is NOT available. We all know the standard lie they’ll usually feed us from the ‘Lies men tell’ handbook to ease our conscience- that they are in the process of divorcing their wives! Yeah right. No self-respecting woman should ever fall for this line and definitely no self-respecting woman should ever put herself in that kind of situation.
Cheating on his wife tells you how he deals with any situation he doesn’t like.
The fact that he is cheating on his wife with you is evidence that this man is not very good at dealing with complex situations. If his reason for being with you is because they are going through a difficult time at home, that alone should set the alarm bells. This means that he’s likely to resort to some devious behaviour with you if the two of you ever encounter relationship problems.
You will always be a side-dish
You will always be that side chick who has to wait for him to call and who has to follow the rules on when to call him and when you can see him. You’ll be at the mercy of his daily schedule and he’ll most likely always prioritize his time with his wife and kids over time spent with you. Fact is – the life of a side dish is a very very lonely life indeed.
You are not getting any younger
While you are busy with a married man– always remember that your biological clock will NEVER stop ticking. This man will string you along for as long as he wants to because he is in no rush and is enjoying having the best of both worlds- he will never commit to you and by the time you realise that, it might be too late for you.
An affair with a married man can be a painful experience
An affair with a married man will be very demanding for you and you will have to sacrifice a lot to be with this man- your time, patience, and understanding. Even if you are aware of his situation at home, this is very unfair to you because you cannot be seen in public with him, you cannot introduce him to your family and you cannot claim him. Every night, he has to go home to his wife and kids because he’s simple not yours.
So, if you’re dating a married man, quickly re-think your relationship with him, and move on to someone who is not married. Chances are in no time; your married ‘boyfriend’ will miraculously sort things out with his wife and you’ll be left out in the cold. Just think, the sooner you decide to get out of your relationship with your married man, the sooner you can move on with your own life and get yourself a “hotty” you can stroll around the mall with without worrying that somebody will catch you. And if that’s not enough to convince you, just keep in mind there’s a reason they call karma a bitch. You don’t want her knocking on your door!
By: Buli Mdanyana @buli_mdanyana